Am I a blacklisted dancer???

Why does she run?

It usually goes something like this...

A beautiful dancer walks quickly over and sits down next to me; she leans over, and then says one of three things:

1. "Quick! Act like you are going to ask me to dance"
2. "Act like you're my boyfriend"
3. "Make believe we are busy talking."

Me: "Why?"

Dancer: "That man over there is about to ask me to dance, but I don't want to!”

I Think: ‘A cry of desperation’.

These types of dancers have put certain dancers on a blacklist and often for very good reason......

What put them (or you) onto their dancer blacklist?

Most dancers are just normal nice guys, but sometimes the women just want to run away.

The Biggest Complaint

"The man is just too rough!"

Guys, when you are leading a lady, you don’t need to be rough! Be gentle! Ladies just don’t like it when they feel like their arms are going to be ripped out of their sockets!

What's more, it can be dangerous. Remember, women are not rag dolls for you to throw around.

Are you too rough? How do you know?

Dance Tips

Here are some hints as to how you can tell…

• You find yourself constantly pulling the lady around.
• You find yourself constantly pushing the lady too much.
• You feel like the lady can't follow you. Perhaps you think ‘You think that the women aren’t good dancers, because they can't follow you’.
• You find that ladies are often off balance.
• You feel that women often seem to run away from you when you are walking towards them?
• You find that the women who run away from you will then often lean over to some other guy (maybe that cry of desperation.)
• You find that the guy she just talked to takes a discreet look around the room! (There’s a big clue there)
• The woman you just danced with is rubbing her arms as if they are sore.

LOOK OUT!

You should look out for all if these signs! If you see some or all of these signs, you may be on a dancers blacklist!

Getting Yourself Removed From The Dancing Blacklists

Firstly: Politely ask the dancer who has run away from you for an honest opinion about your dancing.

Simply say

"I'm trying to improve my dancing and want to know how well I'm leading. Can you tell me if I am being too rough when I lead you?”

You can then ask her to dance and ask for some feedback as you move around the floor with her so that you can adjust your dance lead.

Secondly: If you aren't really sure if you are leading a dance properly, or if dancers continually keep running away from you. Take a private dance lesson or classes to learn how to lead without being rough!

Miscellaneous Dancing Problems

Below is a list of miscellaneous issues that may also put you on the list. These things can be difficult to pin down, because you probably wouldn't know it’s a problem unless someone tells you.

Wet Noodle. Is the exact opposite of the rough guys in that there's the problem where men are considered "wet noodle" because they use no tension what so ever in their lead.

Poor Timing/Leading Late. The best followers can often follow even the worst of leaders, but a majority of people don't like it when you have no timing. It means that neither of you are then feeling nor following the music.

Ambiguous Leads. Be positive in your leads by making your intentions clear. Please don't continuously move your hands in wild circular motions when you dance. You will only confuse your partner and the follower will have no idea where to go and what to do. Make sure you move with a purpose.

Dodgems. You are the driver. Be sure to look out for your lady and keep her from bumping into people on the dance floor. It’s your job to bring her through an enjoyable dance and keep her safe. She is following you and needs to completely trust you. It’s not going to happen if she ends up crashing into people all the time.

What puts a Dancer on a blacklist?

What do you think puts dancers on a blacklist?
How about the girls? We’ve talked about the guys but what puts the girls on a blacklist?
What other signs will show that point to someone being on a blacklist?

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